TOEFL Essay #002: Are parents the best teachers?
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Obviously, the first teachers we have in our lives in most cases are our parents. They teach us to walk, to speak, and to have good manners before we reach "the real world." More than even the professional teachers that we have in school, parents are generally the most involved in the development and education of children.
Almost for sure our parents are the best teachers at the beginning of our lives, which actually corresponds to the parents' role in nature. Parents are most committed and involved in teaching their children; they have a kind of instinct to sacrifice a part of themselves for the betterment of their children. They love us and have great patience while passing down their knowledge to us. They wish us a success and thus will not teach us bad things. And of course, implicit learning occurs when children unconsciously copy some of their parents' habits and styles of behavior.
During the second stage of child development, adolescence, parents can still be in the best position to offer advice even though the children might not accept it. In this case, perhaps the child's friends would be the best teachers. Adolescents are notoriously rebellious in many cultures and may automatically reject any advice from their parents. My first marriage for instance, was solely a matter of doing the opposite when my parents tried to intrude in offering their advice. So in such matters, parents should be much more flexible and be rather the partners with their children. So we can see that being a teacher of growing child become more and more complicated case as the time passes and many parents are simply not able to meet the increased demands.
On the other hand, I would say that parents are not professional teachers and they tend to be very biased by their love of their children. So wishing good things and an easy life may prevent children from maturation. In any case, parents usually can present only one viewpoint of the world, while good teaching should be based on different attitudes. Thus, when children go to school and have a great diversity of teachers, they learn much more than their parents could probably give them. Furthermore, once our parents get older, they become more conservative and cannot always be objective in regard to modern trends and fashions. Thus we need to take their advice with caution during that period. However, some kind of intuition which I believe shared between relatives about what everybody needs and great love which exists in a families still makes our parents very good teachers and advisers at any time.
In conclusion, while parents are not the ideal teachers, and well-rounded children will generally need a great diversity of teachers in their lives in order to have a more accurate view of the world, parents are generally the most committed of all teachers and have the greatest emotional investment in their children and their future.
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- Parents generally have a greater commitment to their children than their teachers do.
- Parents might not be impartial (fair) with their children.
- Parents are not professional teachers.
- Teachers are professionals.
- Teachers usually do not have enough time to spend with their students.
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- Failure to restate the topic is one of the most common errors that TestMagic sees in most essays. For example, many essays start like this: "I agree with this point..." We need to say something like this: "I agree that having food that is easy to prepare has improved our lives."
- Very few people stated that parents are very important because children have so much contact with them in the first years of their lives. Most psychologists agree that these years are fundamental to the emotional and mental growth of the child.
Good manners are not needed in the present world
In our childhood as we were growing up, both religious leaders and our parents or guardians encouraged us to have good manners. Good manners can be described as being polite and respectful towards others. Good manners teach us to be polite and have good social behaviors towards people living around us. In the modern world, people argue that good manners don’t make one achieve his/her goals and therefore not necessary while others still maintain that it is important.
Good manners enhance our ethics whether in the modern or old society. Ethics controls our moral behaviors in our communities. Morals make us know when and who to say something to, for example, the kind of discussion a child is having a fellow child should be entirely different from the discussion with an adult. Politeness makes the entire human race acknowledge the good others are doing to them; it makes children have respect to how their parents are toiling and sacrificing for them. Also, good manners teach how to show considerations to others.
Good manners promote international and family relations. The sure way of knowing a well-behaved family is through the behavior of their child. Every person wants to relate to the best-behaved family in the community, families where people are not well behaved will always suffer discrimination. This discrimination kills the spirit of good relations in our communities. Internationally, different countries will want to deal and do business with corruption free countries. The level of corruption in a country may tell how well behaved people in authority of a particular country are.
Good behavior makes an individual have an advantage in a job interview. No organization wants to deal with rebellious people; an interviewer will tell interviewees’ manners in how they answer questions. Jobs like Marketing portrays what a company is about, and no company will risk losing their good image because of one or two misbehaving employees.
In the modern world, good manners are used as a tool for dishonesty. People behave politely to achieve what they want, from the little things in the family to jobs. After getting what they want, they go back to their bad behaviors. With dishonesty in the current world, good manners serve no purpose and make no sense.
In the world today people are behaving like animals, they behave selfishly. Every individual wants their thing done according to their pace, from offices to roads. Persons working in public offices are not ready to attend to the clients they are supposed to serve. It takes a loss of respect and politeness for you to get services in some public offices. In the roads, no one cares whether you are late or not, other motorists will always want to block your way. With such a selfish society bad manners are occasionally essential.
The streets are full of ill-mannered people. To survive in the streets, one must sometimes lose a sense of politeness. Some individuals may also see good mannered people in the streets as victims of circumstances. Once seen as a victim, people along the streets will play all sorts of bad games on you, including robbing you of your belongings.
The modern world is very rough, but good manners are values which should not be underrated. Despite the rogue people we have around we must know those good behaviors will always influence people positively. The impact will create a new thinking in people, and people will appreciate good manners on a daily basis.